I used to picture self-care in a very specific way; a bubble bath and a face mask and glass of wine. Which is great, but self-care is so much more than that.
I now understand that self-care cannot be defined because it varies so much from one individual to another. Self-care is an outfit that looks different on everyone. Sometimes it’s snuggling in bed and watching Disney, other times its reading that book you bought three months ago but never got round to and very occasionally it’s going for a swim. An introvert’s idea of self-care might be a night in, while an extrovert may feel nourished by a trip out.
The best way I can define self-care is an activity that never feels like a ‘should’ – it is something you enjoy, something you want to do and it doesn’t require a box on your to-do list. It is basically an activity that nourishes you in a physical, emotional or spiritual way.
However we choose to define it, self-care is something we all need, crave and desire. In theory, it seems easy – however, feeling like you deserve to spend some time on yourself can sometimes be harder than you think. We are often so concerned with the self-care of others that we forget about ourselves.
But, as someone that frequently struggles with self-care, I thought I would share some of my ideas with you to help get you started:
- Go on a long walk (alone or with a friend)
This idea costs nothing and is so simple. I choose to throw in some headphones and stroll along to my favourite tunes, but you may prefer getting in touch with that friend you’ve been meaning to call for a catch up.
- Declutter your space
They say a tidy house makes a tidy mind, and I do find it works! Having a clean and organised space can be one of the most nourishing things you can do for yourself (and you always find some hidden treasures along the way!)
- Get creative
Whether it’s an adult colouring book or baking an indulgent recipe, a good creative project can help you work out some of that stress in a really therapeutic way. It’s also good to stop yourself from spacing out and staring at a screen too much.
- Buy a plant
A lesser commitment than a pet, but still something that you can look after and focus some attention on. It will make your space feel fresh and brings a little bit of nature indoors for those lazy bed days.
I hope these pointers help you to remember that self-care can be whatever you want it to be. It’s so important to take care of yourselves.
– By Abi Howard
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